A Subtle Shift

Today I would like to talk about a subtle shift in attitude that can make all the difference in the world. The shift is in moving from things that you are AGAINST, to things that you are FOR. In the book “Three simple steps" by Trevor G Blake. Mother Teresa is quoted as saying,  “I am not against war, I am for peace.”

On the surface that seems like a subtle distinction, but think about it. If you are actively against war, your thoughts, interactions, and situations will revolve around the topic of war. If however,  your mental orientation is slanted towards peace, then all of your thoughts, interactions, and situations will revolve around peace.

The book goes on to explain that the people you meet and interact with will hold viewpoints relevant to the subject matter at hand. Decide that you are against war and you will find yourself surrounded by people who actively talk about or are involved in war. The conversation will likely conjure up images of battlefields, death, or atrocities. Actively promote peace, and there is a good chance you’ll find yourself surrounded by people who are working to make the world a better place through other activities. These conversations will tend to focus on delivering medical supplies, food, love and negotiations that bring people together. The topic of war wil seldom come up. 

This subtle distinction plays a large part in our daily lives. For example, think about the last time you complained about something.  I guarantee you that it was something you were against, or at least didn’t like. During the act of complaining, you will find that your mood becomes sour, your temper and blood pressure rise, and your body fills with cortisol, causing internal stress. By contrast, when holding discussions on things you are For, you are far more likely to become animated, happy, enthusiastic, and joyful.

What a difference a subtle shift in perception can make.

So instead of being against fast food, try being for an incredible dining experience that will make you healthy. 

Instead of being against hatred, try being for love.

It might take a minute for this concept to sink in. It did for me. But the secret is to make a list of things that you are actually for in life, and then cultivate that list. By cultivate it, I mean talk about it, think about it, build plans around it, and take action on it.

Take a minute to think about how this could change your life. I think you will find that the results can be quite dramatic. In its simplest form you’ll find it helps you get through everyday tasks.

For example I’m not against editing, I’m for a polished work. I can testify to this one personally. When I think, my gosh I have to edit again, my mood immediately goes sour. However, when I think, this is a really good story, I  want it to be  as good as I can make it, I approach things in a much different manner.

I’m not against  hours of unproductive writing, I’m for the creation of mystery/thrillers. This thought has brought me to the keyboard more than once when a good idea was nowhere to be found.

Think about what your life would be like if you were not against anything. If you concentrated solely on the things that you were for. No more complaining, no more drudgery, just pure involvement, pursuing the things that you want out of life. All of your conversations would immediately take on a positive tone. It seems to me that this one subtle shift provides a better way to live.  Try it for a week, I guarantee that you will be surprised by the results.

At least this way I see it:

Through a Writer’s Eyes,




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